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“The killer awoke before dawn, he put his boots on. He took a face from the ancient gallery And he walked on down the hall” – Jim Morrison. The scene this paints is one of horror and fear, which in essence is the seed to why some people wear masks to hide their insecurities and evil plots. We all have different masks for different situations that we may feel inferior in so we can pass that moment without drawing attention to the hidden anxieties. With the passing of Ray Manzarek, the doors keyboard player passed away at the age of 74 this week, I thought of connecting the 60’s rock icons and my iconic poet to the online life of today.
True people offline have split personalities online
What has this to do with online use? The ways in which we portray ourselves to our closest friends, loved ones and strangers can often be quite different. Speaking with a qualified counsellor Martin Mc Fadden recently, highlighted that “We are all as a rule social animals, and for that reason it’s very important to many of us how others perceive us. We wear different masks a different times to blend in and to be accepted by our family, friends and our wider circle.”
We live in sync online with our offline lives
So why does this need to differ online? The truth is that it’s on a parallel online with the growth of social media and blogging websites. We look at children’s Facebook pages and we wonder how some comments they put up does not sound it came from the mouths of that child. The trouble is that it’s not just children. Adults are familiar with the odd white lie, but the front that is put online often differs from what the normal run of the mill thoughts are. I always revert back to a comment a 15 year old Cork student made to me when describing how people get involved with cyber-bullying. He said children feel themselves are “keyboard warriors” when they have the computer in front of them. They often feel invincible when typing on a keyboard which registers the key strokes thousands of miles away on a Facebook server.
Reasons for Cyber-bullying
These kinds of comments leave lots of room for people to take snipes at them if they are in the mind-sets. Often people will comment on others pages without really thinking about the consequences. Often the victims are wondering why are people posting nasty comments and photos on websites about them, but sometimes this cannot be avoided. Some tips to minimise these risks;
1) Clean up your social media reputation by taking down the photos and commentsthat can lead to abuse
2) Think before posting on other people’s pages. How would the same comment effect you?
3) Liking and Sharing a nasty comment, is much the same as posting it yourself. This is a bystander role that often is worse than the being the abuser.
4) If you see others putting messages on people’s walls that you believe not being nice, help the victim by asking the abuser to refrain from this sort of behaviour.
5) Keep your offline life as you would like others to see you.
Remember, once it goes online, It may stay online FOREVER!
What do you think of this? Do you too know people like this? Please feel free to leave comments below…….